Caregiver's
Bill of Rights
I have the right:
• To take care of myself. This is not an act of selfishness.
It will give me the capability of taking better care of my
relative.
• To
seek help from others even though my relative may object.
I recognize the limits of my own endurance and strength.
• To
maintain facets of my own life that do not include the person I care for,
just as I would if he or she were healthy. Know that I do
everything that I
reasonably can for this person, and I have the right to do some
things just for myself.
• To get
angry; be depressed, and express other difficult feelings occasionally.
• To
reject any attempt by my relative (either conscious or unconscious),
to manipulate me through guilt, anger, or depression.
• To
receive consideration, affection, forgiveness, and acceptance for what I do
from my loved ones for as long as I offer these qualities in
return.
• To
take pride in what I am accomplishing and to applaud the courage it has
sometimes taken to meet the needs of my relative.
• To
protect my individuality and my right to make a life for myself that will
sustain
me in the time when my relative no longer needs my full-time help.
• To
expect and demand that as new strides are made in finding resources to aid
physically and mentally impaired older persons in our country,
similar strides will
be made toward aiding and supporting caregivers.
• To ...
(Add your own statements of rights to this list. Read this list to yourself
every day.)
Source:
Jo Home, Caregiving: Helping an Aging Loved One, © 1985.
